Will it go away?

We spent two days this week at children's hospital of Colorado because they have a center of excellence for Rett Syndrome, CDKL5, and FOXG1.  This was our second time taking Sonzee and I am glad we went.  We learned some new facts that we had not known prior to this visit, for example, Sonzee has a 5% chance of being seizure free in her life (but realistically it's less than 1%), and if she learns to sit by age 3 she will be more likely to walk.  Neither is to say she couldn't ever be seizure free or learn walk even if she isn't sitting within the year or a miracle happens with her seizure control, but the odds begin to stack against her as time goes on.  Luckily for all of us I never planned on seizure freedom for life for her and my main goal is only for her to sit, so even if it happens when she is 10 that would be okay by me.

Parts of this life are getting more challenging to process.  Everywhere I look I see typical 2 year olds, and I can't stop wondering what Sonzee would be like.  Even looking at the other children with CDKL5 mutations I can't help but feel like Sonzee was given the short end of the stick.  I wish she was at least happy and smiley, but she's constantly miserable and in pain.  I'm so worn down from it.  It's one thing to have a child not complete milestones, that in and of itself is devastating, but tack on a stomach with dismotility, feeding into the intestines, constant GI pains, and unhappiness, and that's the life of Sonzee.   

I'm having a hard time with the tube being gone from her face and it has only been 9 hours.  It was my safety net while out in public, it was how I coped with her not being a typical toddler...now it's hidden.  It will only be revealed by the question of "how old is your baby?"...I keep playing with the blue stroller=wheelchair placard I have to make sure it's clearly visible to strangers. I keep placing her feeding tube extension in a location that is noticeable.  I don't like this.  I feel like too much is changing, but not anything is changing and it all makes me feel like things are spiraling out of control.  I'm feeling like I have completely failed her in all areas and I wonder if that feeling will ever really go away...

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